Monica Helms over at Trans Universe recently put up a piece entitled Stuck in Transition. Monica’s place is one of the blogs I mentioned a while back that has deleted comments I have made there. Be that as it may, I thought her article was pretty good…a bit apologetic in places, a platform of excuses many use for not having GRS in others, but pretty good nonetheless. I would advise a read of it.
I have often heard that “transition doesn’t stop when one has GRS, it’s just begining.” I can understand how that is the case for some, but generally disagree with that statement. Gender reassignment surgery should be the culmination of the transitioning process; it certainly was for me. It seems that many who have GRS now days are very fast track in their approach and have really lived as their target sex for a time that is more easily measured in months, rather than years. I don’t believe one can transition from male-to-female in a year or two, integrate into one’s target gender, and truthfully say they can appreciate the experience for what it is.
But more troubling are the post ops that never leave the GLBT community. Their transition is nothing about going from their natal to their target sex. It’s about the inability to adapt and fully integrate into the mainstream while, instead, relying on a community and lifestyle as a perpetual crutch. Those are the people who are really stuck in transition…the career transsexuals. Those are the ones who are captured by their gender issue and are either unable or unwilling to make the jump from their natal gender to the target. One either can or they can’t.
If they can; they have.
If they can’t; they never will.
Sign THE PETITION…
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I read that blog entry yesterday, found it very telling on many levels. I’ve met Helms face to face here in town at an event back in 2006 as I remember.
If you work hard enough the goal is almost always attainable. If those around you love you, truly love you they will work through their issues and be there for you. Those who have medical issues are few in number and my heart goes out to them.
We do see the transition process the same way, by the time you are ready for having the birth defect corrected you should be socialized and assimilated into female society as the female you are suppose to be. While I don’t agree with the correction being the icing on the cake the intent of that statement is important. Having the birth defect corrected is much more than the icing on the cake it is the conformation of what should have been, and the end of the conflict between body and mind.
But hay what do I know?
For years both Helms and Abernathy have been among the most vocal with neogynophobic remarks in the mainstream. Now both say they want SRS…
For years Helms has bragged about what a great job and all the money she makes, now we are to believe she was broke.
Which time was the lie?
What difference does her income make?
Each time i start to feel myself drawn toward some lines of thought here, some stupid comment from the usual flock snaps me out of it.
i ignored the indian comment quite some time ago and came back. And it’s the same thing. The random Really Good Point (TM), bogged down in ugly, naked hate.
i am not and have never been a part of the GLBT community, and it has taken me some time to find out that the transgender method is not the only way.
But is it impossible to develop and articulate a point of thought without resorting to the sludge of irrelevant personal attacks?
You can only distance yourself from responses on your blog before it becomes a joke. You are the company you keep. Period.
Some of you here need to realize that you are as flawed as the next human being, and evolve from it. Or live in denial and rot from the inside out. Your choice.
Frankly i don’t care anymore. It’s just painful to see such wasted potential.
Anonymous-T-Girl;
I suppose the attacks waged upon myself and others of operative history by Helms without even the hint of an apology doesn’t count for anything.
The fact that Helms in a thread on Bilerico in 2006 called me a man is suppose to be ignored?
We are to just look the other way and forget this person’s past history?
For you to come here ant start criticizing US for comments directed at Helms would be funny if it were not at the expense of transitioned women.
About a year to a year and a half ago, someone high up on the Tranny food chain had a little talk with Helms and Co. about their diatribes against women of operative history. Helms and Co. stopped the dogma on a dime, and started making noises about having surgery somewhere down the road.
In several blogs including my own (now discontinued) made the point that Helms and Co. were doing their cause a great disservice by marginalizing women of operative history.
So Which is it?
Helms has never recanted the position that Helms is non-op.
I smell someone who is trying to have it both ways.
S
Hi Anonymous T-Girl…
First off, I went to your blog, and read it completely…and while doing so I noticed you had linked back here…thank you.
I’m not speaking for catkisser, she is more than capable of offering up any explanation she might feel is warranted. The truth is that it doesn’t make any difference how much money Monica Helms makes, but there is a little more too it and a little more background that you might not be aware of.
For years I and many who post here have been silenced, shouted down, and insulted by the transgender activists for making unpopular stands with regard to the gender debate. Several who are regulars here have been outright banned from commenting on the more popular activist’s blogs for nothing more than offering a difference of opinion. Though the pro transgender activists can argue their points endlessly, accented with wilting insults aimed at their antagonist (us), when we respond the thread is either killed, our comments deleted, or we run the risk of being banned from the site out-right. One of our most vocal critics has been Monica Helms. Ms. Helms has consistently provoked many of us with wilting attacks on classic/true transsexuality and the need, or lack of need, for GRS. Catkisser is perfectly correct in her comment.
You say:
I own this blog and am responsible for it. I have expressed my disappointment in the tone of certain of the comments that are posted here on many occasions. I agree with you that sometimes I feel an essay I may have written is undermined by what you refer to as a “stupid remark.” I feel our cause (cause for lack of a better word) is hindered by unreasonable, pointed, and yes, sometimes, hateful remarks. On the other hand, please consider the frustration many of our readers feel; there is really no other blog for them to voice an opinion, any opinion, on and not fear that they will be either censored or banned. Don’t misunderstand, that is not an excuse or an attempt to rationalize the stupidity that some show in their comments, only an explanation. Also, please notice that I welcome and allow anyone to come here and respond, including Monica Helms…and she has done so, in her predicatable, provocative manner. The difference is, when she and other transgender in her vein do come here, they are not censored, not banned, and most of all not protected by hyper-pro GLBT moderators who promote her (transgender) position yet censor or ban ours.
I’m not sure exactly what “indian comment” you are referring to but I think it may be an attack that was aimed at Mercedes Allen here a while back. If that is what you are referring to, it may be worth noting that I publically apologized to Mercedes on her blog. I can slam the transgender pretty hard at times. That criticism is aimed at the transgender movement and generally not at anyone in particular. If I take on an activist personally, I always link to their words while addressing their point, never going after them personally and I feel I have the respect of those who are reasonable. If a post is completely out of line, or if I, or a commenter, have offended or misunderstood an issue someone else may have held, I have no qualms at all in offering an apology.
I recently wrote a comment at the Catholic Forum in which I said:
The objective of this blog is to differentiate and, yes, separate classic/true transsexualism from the transgender movement which has colonized us. A large percentage of those who read this blog and comment here have been post operative for many years. Our patience has simply run out. There was a need to have a blog that called a spade a spade. A blog to counter gay centric transgender blogs. Many of the topics that are addressed here are made based on seeing the legitimacy of classic/true transsexualism death spiral largely due to the transgender specifically and the GLBT in general. Some of the remarks that are made, and the essays themselves, are written from a historical perspective and/or based on years of ongoing gender debate that may not be familiar to someone who has recently entered it.
As I mentioned, I read your blog this morning. You are exactly the kind of person this blog is reaching out to; I hope you will continue visiting and contributing. But this blog is not a ride-the-fence effort. We have strong opinions based on years of observations we can substantiate and we do intend on expressing them.
http://www.bilerico.com/2009/04/stuck_in_transition.php#comments
i made the mistake everyone else here seems to make. i posted in anger.
i need to think about a proper response before i post again. i’m busy getting in an arguement at Monica Helm’s site right now.
Anonymous-T-Girl;
That is understandable, these issues are tough.
Good luck with Monica.
Take Care
S
I don’t post in anger .. I post in truth.
That nobody wants to hear it is not my problem. That people call it bigoted is a matter of opinion.
I am so tired of hearing these non-op know all’s that preach this “neoclit” garbage. While I certainly can understand where women such as “Gynophile” from the Michigan Womyn’s music festival are coming from, the fact that they have this sort of opinion of all of us being mentally deranged is hardly surprising given the likes of Monica Helms, Autumn Sandeen and Monica Roberts.
Why these non op, crossdressing, gay “neoWmen” have been given any sort of credibility to lead others, is beyond my comprehension.
They do nothing more than create a sterotype that we all end up wearing. So I say to hell with them, call it as I see it and if that is considered bigoted then count me in.
Count me in too.
Me also.
I’m tired of them using our success to validate their irrational, antisocial fight against the mainstream.
At least I am in good company.
Take Care
S
i said Helms, when i ment Monica Roberts. My mistake.
i don’t even know who the hell Monica Helms is. Or maybe i do and don’t know it. Shifting names and identities is too tiresome to keep up with.
Why can’t one simply admit that one really, really, really, really, really, really, really, really wants to keep one’s penis, and was never, is not, and never will be, a transsexual? Why is it that some have this seemingly overwhelming compulsion to claim to be something that they are not. It does not give them an increaae in credibility, it does not make up for past hateful remarks, and it does not do anything other than make one a liar.
Check out my take on this at http://justjenniferblog.blogspot.com
LOL.. so much time and effort into hatred. I guess we all waste our time in different ways… I prefer to waste mine in constructive ways.
And exactly what hate are you referring to?
Truth and hate are the same thing .. didn’t you know ?
Truth and hate are the same thing .. didn’t you know ?
Truth and hate are the same to those stuck in LA LA Land. (the GLBT)
So much delusion from breathing one’s own methane.
Take Care;
S